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Grounding and Bubbling Your Energy

Here is Energy Work Series: Episode 1 Do you walk into a room full of people and instantly feel drained? In this exercise, we will learn a daily ritual to help your empathy muscles grow stronger. By grounding and bubbling your energy when you wake up before you go out into the world to people and before going to be it helps your body, mind, and spirit find better alignment. Grab a glass of water and your favorite journal and let's dive in. Journaling Prompts: What were some of the sensations you felt in your body as you starting breathing? Were you aware of any heaviness? Cracks or feeling blocked energy? When you closed your eyes, did you feel any extra sensory information? Did you see, feel, hear anyone else nearby?

30 Ways to Build Intimacy in Your Relationship

Photo Credit: Wix Stock Photos 1. Touch Each Other Daily- It does not matter where you touch, just a gentle daily connection. Take a Shower Together- The concept of being naked and grooming each other's bodies is exceptionally bonding. Leave them a Post- Notes- Just a small little note somewhere you know they will find it. Turn Off Your Phones- Plan on turning your phones off for at least two hours every week. Sleep Naked Together- The pheromones you release during sleep are intoxicating to your partner. Share a Sexual Fantasy- Sit down with your partner and talk about different fantasies you've had. Maybe they would be interested in Role-Playing; you never know if you never ask. Plan a Manicure/Pedicure/Massage Date- Little self-care together goes a long way. Flirt with Each Other: Release those feel-good hormones. Flirt be silly, laugh together. Take care of one or more of the Household Chores for your Partner- A little kindness goes a long way after a long day at work. Send Your Partner Flowers- The aroma of fresh-cut flowers are such a sweet treat. Spontaneous Lunch Date: Go pick up your partner and randomly find a quick adventure for lunch. Chocolate Chip Challenge- Practice throwing Chocolate Chips into your Partner's Mouth. Update your Intimacy Box- Send them a link for a new Sex Toy you would be willing to try out. Side with Your Partner- When a dispute comes up, show unity and side with your partner. Compliment Your Partner - In front of their peers, coworkers, family, and friends. Send Your Partner a Dirty Text Message- Make sure you send an NSFW warning. Then send them a naughty little text to let them know you're thinking about them. Make a Warm meal for your Partner- Make a favorite comfort food just because you care. Look thru Old Photos Together- Sit back and reflect on the life you both have built together. Take them on a Special Getaway- Just the two of you to rest and reconnect. Display a Fun Little Welcome Home Banner- Celebrate their Homecoming. Lie Down In Bed Together- Share an intimate space and stare into each other's eyes for 1 FULL MIN. How do you both feel afterward? Pull the Covers Over Your Bed in Bed- Have a private conversation under your favorite blanket. SNUGGLE TIME!!- Watch a movie together on the couch and snuggle up close during the movie. Make out Like Horny Teenagers again- Come HERE, BABY!! Have a Hot and Heavy making session, hot breath, heavy petting. French Kiss- Learn & Practice a new technique for Making Out. Embrace & Hug for 1 FULL MIN DAILY- Again, inhale those delicious Pheromones your Partner is putting off. Laugh together- Find a movie or Comedy Club and share a laugh. Greet Your Partner when they Come Home- Make a big deal about them coming home from a long day at work, tell them how much you missed them. Be Curious, Ask Questions- What projects are they working on. Engage in an open line of communication and check in with them daily. Create New Memories together- Find an Adventure together. Add your Ideas and keep this list going. For More Great Content Like this Please Visit my Free Group. The Wild Womb

Guided Meditation: The Woodlands

In this 30 min Guided Meditation I will take you to The Woodlands. This elemental plane is the first of four elemental planes we will visit in your first year of working with me. A recurring conversation this week has been one of connecting to your spirit guides. So I have a quick blog post with a link to The Woodlands Meditation along with a list of 7 Journaling Prompts to complete once you have finished the meditation. What is journaling so crucial in our work? It helps us to step out of our headspace and make room for the messages to come. Journaling also allows us to identify patterns and acknowledge the milestones we achieve in time. The person you are today is not the same person you were last year, nor 3-5 years before. Honor the journey and enjoy the experience. Find a comfortable position to sit or lie down. You are keeping your arms and legs uncrossed. You don't need to watch the video; only listen to it. Once you have completed the journey, please return to this post and complete the journaling prompts listed below. Journaling Prompts When you felt your spirit drop down into the ocean of emotions, did you see or feel anyone around you? How did your energy shift? What did the energy feel like as you climbed out of the water to the sand? Who did you see as you walked along the pathway? What messages did you hear along the way? Once you reached the clearing, describe who you met, what they were wearing, how they walked, and what they said to you? The overall messages you received during this meditation were primarily about the present self version of you. What are your next steps in your journey? When you have finished these writing prompts, please come to The Wild Womb (my free group and share with us How it went.)

Salt Soak Activation for Release

To Activate the Release Salt Soak For Mundane Use: Place 1 TBSP in a warm bath remove all distraction no phone, or people. relax your body and let your mind calm down. Notice the way your body feels and the tingling in your palms and soles of feet start to activate. Submerge the entire body at least one time for a complete activation. This mixture pulls dis-easements from the body. Scrolled down further to read the history for a better understanding. For Ritual Use: Prepare your Bath the same way as above. ( ideally, this should be done during a full moon which is in my humble opinion the best time to release what no longer serves us.) Next, I want you to think about what you are releasing, Is it emotions? Have you recently perform a releasing ritual such as a cord-cutting? How does your body feel? Next, you will add your favorite candles in the appropriate colors. You may empower them with sigils. Or create sigils on paper and place them somewhere you can view while in the bath. Power statements such as, "Today I am Going to Release..." Drawl in your circle of sacred space and call in your Spirit Guides. Listen to your body, and your breath, when you feel ready to submerge underwater to activate completely. As you take a moment underwater feel the dis-easements leaving from your portals: nose, mouth, ears, vagina, penis, and anus areas. Also, feel and acknowledge the difference in your chakra alignment. Come up for air and feel the elemental energies around your body in the water. The fire of candles, the water around you, the air inside you, and the earth beneath your body. Your hands and feet should tingle, activation is complete. Make sure to rinse your body well, and mind the rose petals and herbs not going down the drain. Make sure to thank your Spirit Guides and Release your circle and complete your bath. What's In My Salt Soaks: Each batch is made with a little variation depending on my roses in the garden, and the oils and herbs on hand. So here is my best explanation of the ingredients used: Dried Rose Petals from my Garden Dried Herbs such as: Lavender Thyme Hibicus Mint Spearmint Chamomile Peppermint *Again Small variations depending on what's in my garden. Blends of Epson Salt Mixture Almond Oil & Shea Butter Each Batch of Release is also tuned with Solfeggio Frequencies in my own unique way. The frequencies for Release Salt Soak Include: The liberation of Fear & Guilt DNA Repair & Activations Foundational Tones Awakening Intuition The History of My Salt Soaks is Simple During my time spent with my clients, I saw a real need for the physical aftercare of releasing rituals. These Salt Soaks were designed to help the body release physically the emotional blocks we carry in our bodies from stress. To Be Clear & My Disclaimer: The Release Salt Soak is meant to support the removal of dis-easements. Which can be defined as energetic blocks, trapt energy, emotional bottling and the side effects of trauma-related injuries. This is not a snake oil wonder cure for the disease. That is something entirely different which requires modern medicine from licensed professionals If you feel you need professional help from a licensed care provider please seek that service elsewhere. I am not the correct fit for what you are looking for. In closing, it is my deepest wish for you dear customer, client, wildling that my release salt soaks help you rest, reflect and recharge in a safe space. I would love to hear your testimonials of this product, please feel free to find and tag me on Instagram & Facebook.

Sex Magick: A Solo Act

Learn how to Use your Orgasm to Manifest an intentional life you love. Learn how to Use your Orgasm to Manifest an intentional life you love. Does this Quarantine have you feeling off-balance? Now more than ever, we are in a place of rest and reflection around our bodies -which is the perfect time to explore working with your own orgasm to harness the creative sexual energy and manifest the desired outcome. Sex Magick is an effective tool utilizing the build-up, climax and release of sexually charged energy during ritual practice for specific results. Sexual magick it is different from "just" sex in that it is used for the express purpose of creating and manifesting, as opposed to sexual pleasure and/or procreation. Sex Magick also has the power to serve as a healing method for those who have experienced sexual and emotional trauma. Point of Origins No one really knows with absolute certainty where sex magick originates from, only that it has been around since the beginning of mankind. Depending on whom you ask, some will say it started with the earliest of pagans celebrating Beltane, while others may discuss the healing qualities of eastern practices, such as Tantra, to treat underlying dis-easment in the body related to genital armoring. Now that we understand what sex magick is, how do we use it? I recommend creating a plan for what are you calling in. Let's use one of my favorite examples: a career change. This ritual would be planned for a new moon, complete with herbs, along with candles in crystals in the appropriate colors. Begin with a cleansing ritual bath, adding your favorite salts to wash away the day and restore your personal energy. During the bath, visualize everything that has been weighing you down leaving your body, washing down the drain. After the bath, cleanse and create a sacred space just for this ritual work. Use fresh, clean bedsheets to remove any residual energy from other work, dreams, sex, or sleeping. You may call in your quarters, spirits, elements, or create crystal grids to form a protective circle around your work. (Depending on your personal beliefs and practice). Once your body is in a comfortable position start with breathwork. Listen to how your body breathes, feel it in your organs. That golden light entering your body through the nose and exiting your body through the mouth pulling the grey dis-easements out. Visualization in Sex Magick Begin masturbating, and focus your energy, on your candles that have been charged and consecrated with your intentions, or your sigils are written on paper next to you. Visualize what this next level version of you looks like. While still masturbating feel the softness of your body and rise and fall of breath in your lungs as your excitement continues building. Focus your mind on what a typical day in your new career will look like. How early do you get up for this new career? What type of work will you be doing? How does it feel to be living in alignment with your purpose? As your energy continues to build, think of how great your new career with be - how this new career will make you feel emotional, and what changes it will bring financially. As your body reaches climax close out your typical day remembering how much you loved this new career. Affirm that with this energy, you are releasing all fears and doubts around it and that you will start this new career when the universe offers it to you. Once you have reached completion... Allow your body a few minutes to rest and soak in the oxytocin and endorphins you've just released for that euphoric feeling. You are the master of your universe, and you have the power to make changes happen. Afterward, remember to close your sacred circle, thank your quarters, spirits, elements, or crystals that held safe space during your ritual work. The aftercare is just as important as the ritual work itself in Sex Magick. Honor your body, and clean whatever needs cleaning. Over the next few days as the moon cycle starts building brighter, give thanks again to your quarters, spirits, elements, or crystal for their assistance. Further, power your ritual by also doing the "mundane" work; you must match the energy you are calling in. This means you must actually apply for the job, make a positive impression at the interview, etc.  Sex Magick with the universe is mutual, not exclusive. This article was originally published on Witch With Me

Maintaining Intimacy In Your Marriage

Recently I asked on several of my social media platforms “What is the most important part of Intimacy to you? The overwhelming response to this was simple in nature. Communication with your partner. Regardless of their relationship status, length of time or how many children they had, communication was above all the overwhelming answers I received from my followers. By communicating with your spouse, you are laying the intimate foundations of your relationship. You are present in each other’s life

How do we communicate? Well to start there’s verbal and nonverbal communication. I’m only going to focus on these two for today. We have hearing words of affirmations right? Then we have a psychical touch. Two of the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Both of these we will be exploring further. But first I would like to ask all of you:

What is Intimacy?

According to Wikipedia Intimacy is the state of being intimate. A close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. A close association with or detailed knowledge or deep understanding of a place, subject, period of history. An act or expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection. Sexual intercourse the quality of being comfortable, warm or familiar.

No matter your history, or cultural upbringing, we all can agree on one. As humans, we were never created to be alone. We crave to be touched, to be loved, to have intimate relationships with others. We see this is evident in the case studies having been done on newborns in the hospital receiving skin to skin bonding time with their mothers.  The babies who are held flourish while those who are lacking this do not do nearly as well. You see the premature babies in the NICU, most of them are hooked up to some pretty heavy-duty machines. I can tell you this first hand as a mother. Our youngest was born with an ASD (Atrial Septal Defect or a hole in her heart) and a TAPVR (Total Anomalous Pulmonary Venous Return - Which means her pulmonary veins were not correctly connected to her left atrium) we did not find out about it until she was 2 months old. She spent nearly a month in the hospital while we waited for her little body to become healthy enough for the open heart surgery she required. My husband and I would sit and watch the monitors. As soon as she could feel her daddy’s hands touching her little arm or leg, her heartbeat would quicken and she would open her eyes there she was my little fighter, ready to take on the world.

This is also further proven by looking at any of the small children living in one of the many orphanages. Her body is malnourished, her eyes are sad and she is simply existing. She is hardly ever held or shown affections or even told words of affirmation. Her health suffers from not enough contact. You take this same child, you drop down to her eye level. Make direct eye contact and show her warm and open body language. What does she do? She hesitates for a moment because sadly, she may not understand what attention means or even be sure of what is about to happen, and then you see it. She reaches out her primal urge, longing to be held by someone, anyone willing to comfort her. Willing to hold her and tell her she is loved and valued in this world. When children like her are adopted and given the opportunity to be in a loving home they come alive and they flourish in this world.

This transfers over to adults, in any relationship. As adults, we long for and crave to be touched and to find an intimate relationship. To have another person to share our lives with. To have someone who knows us in such an intimate way we find trust and comfort to lay the foundations for something so much more greater. To have our hearts nourished and feel full of love. In a marriage, we have to acknowledge the different stages, the life cycle of it. We all start off hot heavy, then we grow and we change, and we become more comfortable. As we start this journey some of us become parents and our marriages shift to adjust to our new roles. Our focus is no longer on the hot and heavy stage of US it’s on becoming parents caring for our children, building a life for them and ourselves. We can fall into a comfortable numb, a mundane and complacent life if we're not comforted. Slowly over time, we lose ourselves and sometimes, unfortunately, each other along the way. Once we figure out what stage we are in we need to figure out how do we get back to us? How do we find that missing spark again?

As an adult toy educator, I see this quite often in the one on one discreet consultations I do with my customers. We get so busy in life we forget the traditions that reinforce the bonds in our relationships, the playful and loving rituals we do to reignite that sparkle in the eyes of our significant other.  I have a few questions I like to ask my clients when we really sit down to talk. I want them to really think back to the fun, the playful the BLISS.

Remember that first date? What was so special about it? How about that moment in life when you KNEW they were the one person you were going to spend the rest of your life with? What was it that caught your attention about them?  How about your first kiss? The first time you made love? Hold on to those memories for just a moment.

I met my husband on a blind date when I was only 19. I knew he was the one after an hour of talking to him. It was so strange to me when he and I spoke I felt as though I knew him already. As though we were already familiar in our hearts with each other.  At 19 years old, I was still a baby yet I had lived a lifetime before meeting him. My husband was the only man I ever spoke to where I didn’t stutter. I still remember that night like it was yesterday. He made me feel warm and comfortable during our conversations. Talking about our families, and our friends while we giggled as we learned about each other.

Not 24 hours after I met him, I packed a duffle bag of clothes, grabbed my favorite cast iron skillet and the homemade butcher's block my father had made recently for me. We hopped in his truck and this California girl was off to Waco, Texas.  Every parent’s nightmare right? Lol. Almost 12 years together, 3 beautiful little daughters, and the life we have worked so hard to build together. I can attest to losing intimacy in my marriage. When We became parents, it was not that we ever stopped being us, we simply pushed us off to the side and focused everything on the first steps, the first words, first laugh and then This focus grew into the beautiful first day of school, first time riding a bike without training wheels, and the  first big job promotion. As a parent, how do you find time for intimacy when everyone in the house is having a meltdown? It’s not an easy task, not by far. Sometimes, you are able to see it coming other times you are not.

For us we hit a very rough patch, we spoke about that horrible D word no one ever wants to hear in a marriage. When the moment came, we opted for marriage counseling instead. We wanted to fight for our marriage, for our family and for what we have worked so hard to build together. During our sessions, we had discovered somewhere along the 12 years and 3 beautiful incredible amazing little daughters we lost the US. We lost who we were as a couple. We lost what had made us work together as a solid unit. With becoming the very best guy at work, and women in business. We had put us off to the side. We forgot how to hold hands in the store. Expectedly instead, we replaced holding hands withholding children. The three little kisses on the check shoulder or arms before bedtime. We were lost in the mix of quick showers, brushing our hair and teeth and preparing for bed. We had forgotten about the glass of chocolate milk after sex. If sex was great the chocolate milk was on point not to Sweet, not to Milky. Yet if sex was just ok. Well, we laughed at the horrible batch of chocolate milk we made together.

These small yet extremely important rituals in our marriage to reaffirm our intimacy was missing.  So how do you get the rituals back after becoming a parent? Well, you can go to counseling, read books on relationships and practice communicating with your spouse. Its a start, to want that intimate connection back. At least that has helped us to become the very best partners we could ever possibly become. It starts off small. Baby steps. Getting to this point didn’t happen overnight. It took time to grow apart and may take time to grow back together. Maybe it’s scheduling a date night. Take time for this, because it’s important. "We were lost in the mix of quick showers, brushing our hair and teeth and preparing for bed. We had forgotten about the glass of chocolate milk after sex. Take the time to get dressed up for your spouse Men you to. Let your beautiful spouse see the man she married. This is the moment you dress up for each other.
Find a place to go to dinner, or if money's kinda tight, Improvise and make a nice dinner at home ( hide the frozen dinner boxes of premade food in the bottom of the trash can if you must). The important thing to remember is it’s the journey getting to this point, not the small little details of things that really don’t matter at the end of the day. Perhaps it’s a weekend away to fully immerse in a silly adventure together. Maybe..dare I say randomly watch a porno together, see how you both feel about what is being done in the scene. Allow yourselves the opportunity to communicate and explore creative ways of playing in a safe space. Then sit and talk about it for a moment and maybe, you might find an exciting new way to play together. I tell you after 12 years together we are still learning and finding new ways to play together.

Recently, on the show “Play with Me” from Playboy Radio, We the panel discussed the subject of kissing. What the body’s emotional, psychological and psychical response to kissing was.  Let’s start off with psychical and psychological responses: Did you know our lips are our body's most exposed erogenous zone?  Oh yes, it takes five of the 12 cranial nerves to engage in learning about our partner.

When we kiss, dopamine is released throughout our bodies creating the sensation of falling in love during a passionate kiss. This dopamine makes us feel happy or sad sometimes even sleepy. This also sends a message to our blood vessels allowing them to dilate and our hearts to race. This is also what we identify as the sensation of falling in love. Have you ever had such a passionate kiss it brought you to orgasm? It’s an interesting experience to have. From an emotional standpoint, kissing so connecting in a relationship. After a long day of work, how would it feel to have your spouse meet you at the door? Wrapping his or her arms around your neck and body and fully embracing you for a hot and passionate kiss. Only to pull away and look you in the eyes and say “I missed you today.”  How does it make you feel to kiss your significant other? When was the last time you had a hot and heavy make-out session with heavy petting and hot breath on your neck?

What are some other rituals you do in your relationship to reaffirm your love? I am big on psychical touch. Run your finger through my hair, touch my face and tell me that you love me.

After a long day, one of the biggest things I look forward to my husband doing for me is a shower. The psychical act of soaping up a sponge with our tropical scented handcrafted soaps and washing my entire body scrubbing away all of the stress from the day. The feel of the warm shower and the closeness of his body to mine. Most of the time, it really does not require sex afterward. Just the intimate moment we share naked in front of each other. The rough feel of his hands, the warmth of his skin. The intimate way to explore each other’s bodies. The way his body feels as I scrub his legs. To connect, to talk about our day. To release the stress, then we dry each other off. Most of the time this only happens realistically after we put our little ones to bed. Otherwise, we do hear the distractions of knocking and whining at the door.

I have heard of a few rituals other couples do, one couple writes naughty little messages across the smooth surface of the peanut butter jar. Just a quick little naughty note to remind each other hey.. I see you, I want to play with you and engage. Another bakes a tray of cookies and meets her husband at the door wearing her apron, heels and holding the tray of cookies with nothing else. This couple recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary.( and a possible sexual harassment charge from the FedEx driver… Just kidding). Love is a playful art form. Intimacy is the choosing to connect and be present in your partner’s Life. Without having intimacy in your marriage and honoring the close connection it will not bring any joy to your life, it will suffer and may even parish.

This is one of the biggest reasons I love being an adult toy educator. I am honored to sit down nearly every weekend to hear people share their personal sex lives with me. Sometimes it’s a date night and a pair of vibrating panties. Sometimes it’s finding the right flavor of edible warming oil and book to describe the different ways to give and receive a sensual massage for a special anniversary present. Other times it's in the workshops I teach, helping women to rediscover the body confidence we often lose after having children. In closing, I want to add an important point. Adult toys were never created to replace your spouse, They are meant to enhance your sex lives. To explore the many intimate ways your body responds to the visual stimulation the psychical vibrations and textures of materials, also sometimes utilizing scent, and taste. Once you open this door the possibilities are endless.

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