Unfortunately, it has many layers to it. Both sexes suffer from low libido for a multitude of reasons: Stress, Diet, Alcohol, Lack of Sleep, Lack of Sex, Lack of Body Confidence, Weight Gain, depression, Age.
To understand possible reasons why you may be experiencing low libido let us first take a look, at a couple of questions.
What do your sleeping habits look like?
Are you getting at least 8 hours of sleep during the night?
If not, I would strongly suggest looking into the reasons why you are not sleeping at night. This will affect so much more of your life than you realize.
Do you consume alcohol?
Are you experiencing major stress?
Our Brains consume roughly 20% of our bodies energy. When we are stressed out our brain releases hormones like adrenaline, noradrenaline, and cortisol. Which are stress hormones that help our bodies decide how best to respond to the fight or flight response? To read further information about how these hormones will affect your body please click here for a wonderful article full of information,
Do you feel you are Depressed?
If you feel like you might be suffering from depression I strongly urge you to speak with a healthcare professional. They have many wonderful resources to help you navigate thru finding positive and healthy decompression exercises.
What does your Diet Look like?
By eating healthy foods rich in iron, zinc, calcium, and vitamins A, B, D, and E you are giving your body the proper nourishment it really needs to maintain on a daily bases.
What if these are not the root reasons for Low Libido? What if it is an intimacy issue? In most of the relationships I work with experiencing Low Libido, I have found that its a combination of the above stress plus a lack of intimate contact. Here is the second list of questions to think about:
How often do you compliment your partner?
How often do they compliment you back?
How do they respond to your naked body?
How do you respond to your own naked body?
Do you feel emotionally loved in your current relationship?
I read an excellent article a while back stating Foreplay was a Dirty Word.
This article suggests that foreplay is only used right before sexual intercourse.That couples only connect and seduce each other when they expect to have sexual intercourse. Which really bothered me to hear. For most women, we need much more than a thought about having a quickie to get excited.
We need time to allow our bodies warm up and to feel emotionally connected to our partner.
I feel foreplay is still very much needed as both as a kick start to sexual play and also in maintaining intimacy in a relationship. We, as Women, need to be stimulated and have our senses come alive with excitement so we are able to release the oxytocin, and dopamine into our bodies to trigger the sensation of falling in love and creating the natural moisture we need to fully reach orgasms deep within our wombs.
To be touched, nurtured, loved and to feel connected to our partners I do also see the value in practicing foreplay with your partner without an end result of sex to allow for a deeper level of intimacy as a healthy whole in the relationship its self.
Sometimes we do need a little extra help along the way, be it reasons for aging, or medications we take that reduce our vaginal moisture. I personal LOVE and cannot rave enough about the NATURALLY YOURS. It is by far one of the best lubrication created specifically for a woman’s body. It has no parabens, glycerin, and is made with all organic and body safe ingredients.
Arousal Creams and Gels are a wonderful product available in today’s market. For the ones I carry, ON PLUS WILD is made by senuva has cinnamon and clove has its main ingredients. Cinnamon and Clove help to promote Blood circulation in the area it is applied to. This oil will get WARM on the skin. The reason it gets warm is that it’s pulling all of the blood cells it can to the 8,000 – 10,000 nerve endings found inside the clitoris.
ON PLUS FROST is another LOVEWINX product which has the opposite temperature. By using menthol as the main ingredient. his products turns ice cold when applied to the skin. I Strongly recommend the ICE version for my older ladies experiencing menopause. This product will cool you off while helping your body to hydrate your vaginal canal with your own fluids.
As always if you have any questions please don’t be shy reach out and I will do my very best to answer them for you.