The Importance of Dating Yourself

The Importance of Date Yourself

I have a thought provoking question for you today. Do you ever take yourself out on a Date? If you have answered YES kudos to you! If you have answered NO Here is a few reasons why you should pull out your calendar today and make a date with yourself.

We as humans are constantly on the move. We always have our phones in our hands and remain connected to social media and news happening 24/7 around us. We have become so disconnected from ourselves that we lose a sense of humanity, intimacy, kindness, love, and empathy. We become overwhelmed and exhausted. Did you know the Brain consumes about 20% of your body’s energy during the day. When we “disconnect” or allow ourselves downtime we allow our brain to rest and regroup. Which helps us out in the long run to be able to come back to a problem and find a better solution.

When you Date Yourself you rediscover who you are as a person, and what types of things you find stimulating. You get to know yourself all over again. In finding a quiet place to hangout with yourself you have a chance to emotionally check-in with your goals in life and see how far you have come as to where you want to be. Your Relationship status should not impact setting up “Me Time”. Relationships where both parties take time out alone have reported less stress and better communication between them.

Dating yourself can be something as simple as:

Having lunch alone

A Bubble Bath- Candles, Bath Bombs and a HOT playlist

Going to see a New Movie – Sometimes you just need a good laugh

Taking a Yoga Class- This will help you become more emotionally present in yourself.

GO for a nature Hike,- the fresh air and vitamin D is so good for combating depression.

Treat yourself to a Manicure, Pedicure, Facial, Massage

Journal alone- write a love letter to yourself, and talk about the things you do or have done to be happy.

Masturbate – Might sound a little crazy however Orgasms are so good for the body. When we masturbate we release the feel good chemicals and hormones our bodies need.

When a man masturbates the chemicals released in his brain are: norepinephrine,serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin

Norepinephrine is a stress hormone that encourages the fight or flight response in the body. Kick starting sexual activity. Serotonin is the feel good hormone which helps the body to relax after an orgasm. Oxytocin is the loving/ Bliss hormone we release as we fall in love, go into labor, or maintain eye contact with the opposite sex for longer than 10 seconds. The Human body is such an incredible study.

When a woman masturbates it increases her estrogen levels and releases oxytocin which combats cortisol (which is the main stress hormone) in the body.

The important thing to remember here is you need time and space with yourself to reconnect. To rest and relax.

In closing this blog post I want you to start thinking of a couple of places you would like to treat yourself to go to. Then look over your calendar and start putting your plan in action. I would love for you to write back let me know where you went. How is made you feel and what your enjoyed most about this experience.

Have a Great Day,


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